Why you should try temperature play
Question: What is a way that my partner and I can bring kink into the bedroom — and engage our senses — without having to go “too intense?”
People are trying temperature play more often these days because we're simply getting more adventurous in the bedroom. Trying things that might once have been considered taboo is becoming more mainstream and acceptable. Sex toy sales absolutely skyrocketed during the pandemic, shedding light on the growing interest in kink and other forms of more non-vanilla play. We're also seeing an increase in this kind of play, in particular, because it's very accessible. You can simply grab an ice tray out of the freezer to give this play a try. It's quite simple to -- and I believe that makes it less "scary" when you're looking to try new things sexually.
Temperature play is appealing because of our heightened sensitivity to touch and sensation. Our brains become quite primal when we’re turned on. We want to touch and explore everything on ours and our partner’s body.
Feeling something cold (or hot) on certain areas sends a shock through the system. It’s something we’re not expecting. Experiencing that level of surprise increases blood flow and heart rate … only furthering our sexual intensity and desire.
It’s not just a shock that plays a role, but the flow of feeling. It is sensual exploration. It’s relaxing and sexy.
Be aware of what you’re using for this kind of play. You do not just go and find a household candle and start dripping wax on your partner’s thighs. You want to use a candle designed for this play (like this one!).
If you're doing cold-play, plan ahead. Pop your toys in the freezer a few hours before you get down and dirty. Always be sure to test the toy on your hands and arms, to ensure it is "too cold." Because no one wants freezer burn.
Remember to always communicate with your partner to make sure everyone is having a great time and is experiencing pleasure. Check-ins are always very important.