Why you feel like you need to pee during sex.
QUESTION: I find that I constantly feel this need to pee when I’m having sex. Usually it’s when I’m about to have an orgasm. I find it stops me from letting go. Is this normal?
Why might people with vaginas feel like they need to pee during sex?
Usually someone would pee during sex because they're squirting. There are two kinds of real life squirting that occur: Squirting through the Skene’s glands vs Gushing squirt. Both are emitted through the urethra.
“Squirting,” or female ejaculation, has been thought to happen only when the Skene’s glands expel an alkaline, milky white fluid (usually in tandem with orgasm, but not always). This usually happens when G-spot stimulation is involved somewhere in the sexual play, but not in every case.
The Skene’s glands are located by the G-spot (at the back end of the internal clitoris) and the urethral sponge. The fluid is similar to prostate fluid. The Skene’s Glands only release about 1-2 tablespoons of liquid in total SO, if your partner is a big, fire hydrant squirter, it’s coming from the bladder, not the Skene’s.
It can be distressing, but I always say: Who really gives a shit if you're experiencing pleasure? Throw down some puppy pads.
Now, if you're peeing a lot - and not at the time of orgasm - yeah this might be a health concern. It could be due to improper functioning of the pelvic floor. You should see a sexual medicine doctor to get advice.
The difference between orgasm and peeing.
There might not be a difference for some. But really it's about the sensation. If it feels like you're orgasming (or just having that area manipulated) and you feel a release, that's squirting. But if it really feels the same as peeing, that is peeing. Again, it doesn't really matter if you're enjoying yourself.
What should someone do if they feel like they have to pee during sex?
Throw down a towel or puppy pad and enjoy the ride. If it's distressing for you, don't drink liquids for a few hours before sex (which can be a bummer for being hydrated, honestly). It can also help to pee right before sex to ensure your bladder is empty.
XOXO GIGI
Part of this blog originally appeared on Mashable.