How Do You Have Shower Sex?
QUESTION: Having shower sex looks amazing, but everything I’ve done it it falls flat. Is there anything I could be doing to make this experience special?
Shower sex looks famously awesome in movies. People are wet, covered in soap, and never fail to make steamy hand and butt prints on the glass.
Yet in practice, shower sex isn’t all that simple. Water doesn’t make for a great lube and soap getting into the wrong places can be a one-way ticket to a yeast infection.
There is a true art to having good shower sex.
Luckily, there are a few tips and tricks that offer up all the benefits of shower sex, while maximizing pleasure. Shower sex is super hot and customizable. Shower sex can be whatever you want it to be - whether that’s partnered or solo. It’s your game, pal!
Have you been considering getting freaky in the shower, but aren’t sure where to start? Let’s break down how to have the best shower sex possible so that you can sud up to get down.
Why shower sex is so appealing.
Shower sex is appealing for a number of reasons. You’re naked, you’re wet, you’re under a relaxing, warm tap. It is all very appealing and quite sensual. It can be pretty hot to get a little naughty when you’re getting cleaned up.
For other people, shower time might the only time when they get to enjoy one another erotically. We’re all busy people and usually sexy time is relegated to our very limited private space.
Water doesn’t count as lube!
Water may feel wet, but it isn’t lube. Water actually washes away your body’s natural wetness, which can lead to friction, pain, and decreased pleasure. This is why having a reliable lube to keep in your shower can be a real life-saver.
Instead of going for a water-based lube, try silicone. You want something with extra slip and staying power. Silicone lube is the way, as it stays on even in the face of a faucet.
You can also use lube to up the ante on ~sensuality.~ Try using it to massage your partner - on both erogenous zones and everywhere else.
Need some recommendations? Check out silicone lubes from Sliquid, System JO, überlube, Pure for Men, and Astroglide.
Enhance your senses.
Showers are a full sensory experience. From the sound of the running water, to the warmth, to the lovely smelling soap, it’s a true feast.
Lean into this fact and turn up the sensory element even more. It’s about creating a sexy context by utilizing what you have. Candles, music, lighting, etc. All of this can be a part of creating a sexual context for your shower experience.
You can also incorporate some sexy audio erotica from apps like Dipsea or Ferly, if that’s your bag.
Get some toys in on the fun.
Get yourself some vibrators, kids. You’re limited in what you can do sexually, so maximizing what you CAN do is important.
You can also bring in glass toys - which are super shower-friendly because they are totally waterproof.
Always read the directions for your toys to be sure they’re safe for shower use.
Don’t limit yourself to penetration.
We see a lot of penetration in shower sex movie scenes. Somehow the actors don’t ever fall. In the real world, this just isn’t how some of those highly intense lifted positions are going to play out. Sex is not just about penetration. Focus on pleasure.
Get down with a little anal action.
Anal can be a bit intimidating due to the whole poop situation. So, what better place to give it a go than in a place where you’re able to easily clean up any ~mishaps~?
Basically, the shower is already the shower so you’re in a perfect position to wash up if there should be any need to rinse down. It happens and that’s perfectly OK. If you’re super not OK with a little poop, ya probably shouldn’t be putting things in a bum, you know?
You could bring in a water-proof vibrating butt plug for a little anal action. Be sure to take your time and go really slowly with all things butt-related. Relax and breathe deeply. And don’t forget the lube!
Be mindful of the sex positions you choose.
When it comes to sex positions, you should be extra careful because, well, showers are slippery, y’all. If sitting is an option in your shower situation, get after it.
If you’re standing, be sure you’re being deliberate in your actions. Moving slowly will help safeguard from slipping in the shower. Always proceed with caution.
Figuring out what works for you in the shower is about getting curious. Some positions may work better than others, so don’t be afraid to experiment.
We’re all just trying to have a good time, after all.
XOXO GIGI
Part of this blog post originally appeared on Mashable.