Is everyone doing double penetration these days?
Question: Double penetration is a hot trend for 2024. Why?
Why double penetration seems to be gaining popularity.
If I had to render a guess, I’d say that DP is getting more popular as a porn becomes more and more popular, because it's very popular in pornography and erotic materials. Think about some of your favorite scenes: Don’t they usually involve DP of some kind? Probably! For most of us, anyway.
Dp is very visually stimulating — which makes it tempting in both IRL situations and porn. There is a LOT going on there. And it certainly isn’t just for the two male-bodied people doing the penetrating. Everyone can enjoy this act.
There’s a lot of power play involved — and that can be very fun — as long as everyone is consenting to the play. That's probably the biggest appeal, in my opinion. Being submissive when you want to be submissive is really empowering for those who enjoy it.
Another factor to consider is that more vulva-owners and women owners are actually becoming openly interested in this kind of sexual act — and are interested in being submissive in a way they might enjoy. There’s a lot to unpack there. In this position, you’re being so desired that two people just have to have you — share you even. That can be very hot. Or maybe it’s because you’re being ~used~ and, hey, that can be very appealing.
These contexts are made possible by a shift toward sex positivity and female sexual autonomy. As sex positivity becomes more and more a part of our everyday lives, it makes it possible for people to have these experiences in a way that that feels safe and pleasurable for them.
Can DP make sex more pleasurable?
I don’t want to sound like I’m saying: You’ll only have pleasurable sex if you try DP. Not at all. I’m over people spouting this nonsense about all these ways we need to up the ante on our sex game in order to good at it. What even is that? We’re all just here for a good time, trying to have pleasure.
It CAN be fun though — in the right circumstances. And increase pleasure for some for in different ways.
Here are some the main ways DP can be super pleasurable — and why people freakin’ love it.
There’s power play involved — which can be fun.
There’s a ton of stimulation happening. And some people really enjoy having multiple holes stimulated at once.
Being penetrated in your vagina and your anus, has the potential to stimulate the whole clitoral body from the inside. You’re just REALLY getting all up in there.
The anal opening is is full of nerve endings — and for some people are very into anal play for this reason.
It’s very taboo and we are very turned on by things we’re not supposed to want. It’s called being human, henny.
Keep in mind that most vulva-owning humans will need to externally stimulate the clitoris because the vast majority of vulva owners do require that stim to orgasm. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. The clitoris is the queen of female-bodied pleasure, y’all. DP may be fun but it ain’t gonna hit that area at the top of the vulva.
Is DP becoming less stigmatized?
I’d say that DP is definitely becoming less and less of a stigmatized practice as we move toward a place agency and away from shame narratives around sex. DP can certainly be an act that comes from an empowered place.
For men, it really depends on how they feel about sexuality and sex positivity and, frankly, like how you feel about women. If they aren’t steeped in the messaging of misogyny and are of an egalitarian mind around sex, it will be a fun and egalitarian sex act.
I am hopeful for the future and do believe we’re moving in a good direction — one where everyone can enjoy the sex acts they want, without fear of judgement. We all deserve that love and light, you know?
Safety and caution are a must.
Let’s talk about doing DP safely. Because it can be dangerous if you’re not careful. Bodies be delicate.
You want to be really careful with any kind of anal penetration because of the risk of tearing or pain. Go slowly. Use anal dilators. Don’t just jump into DP out of nowhere — you might really rip your ass.
Before doing anything, be prepared to advocate for yourself. If you don’t think you can speak up, this probably isn’t a great idea. Because we need to be able to speak up and let our partners know what’s working and what’s not.
When it comes to anal penetration and vaginal penetration, I would definitely recommend practicing on your own, before engaging with other people because you want to be sure this is stimulation that you enjoy — and how it actually feels for your body. It’s a variety level sex act and you want to be prepared and feeling good about it.
And remember, use all the lube.