Question: What are the best sex positions for intimacy and why?

Has the sex gotten a little … clinical? Maybe a bit routine? Not robotic but, like yeah, robotic?

Don’t get us wrong here, maintenance sex is an important part of relationships. Having a regular romp on the G-cal is good. It keeps you close and connected. That being said, where did the romance go in the bedroom? Where have you gone, romance?

Looking for some sex positions that can up that intimacy factor? I’ve got you. 

Try these 3 romantic sex positions to get that spark going like hot, hot heat. If sex positions were romantic gestures, these would be those gestures. Pop that bottle of red wine and get to it.

The Lotus

Getting into the Lotus position, the penetrating partner should sit on the bed, chair, or couch with their legs crossed one over the other in the shape of a pretzel. This is called “half lotus.” You get a “full lotus” when you add in person number two.The person being penetrated then sits on top of them and can wrap their legs around them and basically koala them, like they're a koala bear. Instead of bouncing up and down, the person on top moves their hips back and forth in a rocking position.

There is lots eye-gazing that typically comes along with the Lotus. While you can definitely put your chin on your partner’s shoulder to avoid staring at each other, eye contact is one of the reasons this position is so popular. So, you’re not someone who enjoys eye-contact during sex, you might be a huge fan of Yab Yum. Physically speaking, this position is optimal for clitoral stimulation. Since you’re not bobbing up and down and are, instead, rocking back and forth, the penetrated partner can rock against the bottom’s pubic bone, hand, or toy.

The Wrapped Burrito

Now, we all know the spoon is great - but it tends to be our go-to sex position when we’re feeling lazy, not romantic. So, what’s a gal to do? Get closer, baby! Get as close to your partner as possible, backing into their body, slowly. Have him or her wrap their arms around tightly. This is a great position for intimacy. 

This is a great position for dry humping or using sex toys (the Thrill from SKYN or Fin from Dame Products is perfect for this). Penetration is fun and all, but all sex positions can be altered so it's not involved. Whatever works for you.

The Queen (or king) Snake

If cow-person or missionary make you tired, you're not alone. They are energy-intensive The Queen Snake is like cowgirl, only romantic and easy. Have your partner lie flat on their back.

Mount them in whichever way is most comfortable for you. Move your legs back so that you’re lying flat against your partner’s body. Rock back and forth for optimal intimacy and clitoral stimulation. This may sound challenging, but if you take it slowly, it's actually pretty easy. This another great one for sex toys - a c-ring with a raised base for the clitoris is perfect for this one.

XOXO Gigi

This article originally appeared as an interview with Fatherly.

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