QUESTION: Does the G-spot even exist and if it does, how do you locate it?

Does the g-spot exist?

“G-spot” is a nice, simple way of explaining a not so simple thing. “Spot” simply doesn’t do it justice because it's an area. While there is still research being done and new information is still coming to light, we have gotten a pretty clear view of what the G-spot really is. Namely, that it is not a spot, it is an area - the internal clitoris, urethral sponge, and the Skene's Glands (and more probably).

It is the tissue, nerves, and ducts surrounding the urethral sponge and canal. Among its many glands and ducts is the  Skene’s Gland, which fills with an alkaline fluid during G-spot stimulation. At the time of orgasm (or even before orgasm for some vulva-owners - sometimes even without orgasm, they aren't directly related, it's that there is stimulation in that area, it's probably sexual), the fluid is released, aka: “squirting.” 

Some of it is also probably pee - because hey, you're stimulating the urethral sponge too. It comes out of the urethra, not the vagina.

The best way to locate it.

To locate this area, insert two fingers into the vaginal canal and hook them up towards the belly button, behind the pubic bone. Make a come hither or rocking horse motion. It should feel like a walnut textured patch.

How to stimulate the G-spot.

First, figure out if internal stimulation works for you. Use a G-spot toy (vibrating or non-vibrating) or fingers and massage the area. Try moving in circular motions, up and down, or even applying pressure (you can actually pull someone by their G-spot because it is hooked behind the pubic bone).

There are so many different types of G-spot toys available to you: A vibrating wand, a non-vibrating wand made of silicone (medical-grade or body-safe only, please). Some toys have girthy-er heads, some have smooth, smaller heads. Some wants are even made of stainless steel, glass, or hard plastic. Each type offers different sensations. For example, steel offers weighted, more thuddy pressure while a vibrating, silicone wand is lighter and gives the G-spot all over vibration.

Are there risks to g-spot play?

The only "risk" is that it may not feel good or be painful - every single body is different. If you're prone to UTIs, you may find this stimulation irritating. For the most part, it's quite safe. Use lube, communicate with your partner, and take things slowly. It's not for everyone and that's OK.

XOXO Gigi

This article originally appeared as a part of Women’s Day.

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