Ask Gigi: What Is Prostate Milking? My Partner Wants to Try It.
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Hi Miss Gigi,
My wife has shown some interest in milking my prostate. I'm a little skeptical on the whole act. I've fingered her vaginally, but now she wants to finger me anally. Our sex life is a little boring now. Only position we do now is doggy style.
Should I be more open to prostate milking? What does my wife need to perform this task on me? Gloves I'm assuming. Anal lube? How will I know it's working? Will I feel something I never felt before?
The prostate has been heralded as the male G-spot … and for good reason! Studies show that the prostate can contribute to male orgasm, increasing intensity by up to 33 percent! Why does it feel so good? There are several theories, but most experts think that it just … does.
Basically, we’re not 100 percent sure why this stimulation feels so amazing, but it does. So, why not try it, right?
You might be thinking that engaging in butt play as a straight man might make you less of a man. This is absurd and only reinforces gender norms that should be done away with. A truly confident man is open to expanding and venturing through all of his sexual horizons to find multi-faceted pleasure. You feel me?
To locate the prostate, insert a well-lubed finger or a small butt toy into the anal opening and tilt it up towards the belly button. The prostate usually feels like a bump. It’s about the size of a walnut, so you may feel the sensation without actually being able to feel it against your finger. Be sure you’re anus is relaxed. Breathe deeply. If you butt hole is tensed up, inserting something into it can hurt. No one wants that.
“Prostate Milking” is just a fancy way of saying “prostate massage.” Massaging it is super easy. You can use a massager like the Aneros, which is perfectly designed to rest against the prostate. You can pop it in and engage in other sexual play while it rocks against the prostate gland on its own. You can also use fingers, gently pressing against it.
I’m including more articles below on preparing for anal play, toys you can try, the best lube for anal sex and more!
Here is a video that will teach you all about the prostate, how to find it, and what it feels like to have a prostate orgasm.
I hope this helps! And best of luck getting all up in that prostate goodness.