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This week’s best sex and relationships news from all around the web.
Making The Rules: How Sex Work Helped Me Reclaim Agency In My Relationships
Like many people wading through their young adult life, I felt depressed, unhappy, and unfulfilled in my relationship during my “Saturn Return.” I felt disconnected from everyone, including myself and my body. I contemplated suicide. Change became inevitable because I literally couldn’t stay in the same position; I just wanted to find contentment in my life.
So here’s my truth: it was sex work that allowed me to feel confident and empowered and to put my feelings and comfort first — in life, in work, and especially in dating men. Read more …
By: Salty and Graci Love
It’s Just Hair, but When You’re a Trans Woman, a Ponytail Can Mean a Whole Lot More
When I was in kindergarten—and very much in the closet as transgender—I had begun to crave a ponytail like the ones I saw on many of the girls in my class. I’m well aware that for many girls and women, the ponytail is a “bare minimum” style, often for lazy days, but the girls I saw in my class emulated the women I saw on television who were strong, confident, and successful. I thought they were cool, and I understood immediately I could never have one.
Even at six, I knew better. I was raised in deeply conservative Texas, in a world with firmly cemented gender roles. I was a boy and I had better keep to “boy things.” The bouncy ponytail of my dreams? Not a boy thing. Read more …
By: Glamour and Charlotte Clymer
LISTEN TO THIS: Girls Gotta Eat - Thank U, Sext
About this episode and why you should bother listening: First of ALL, I AM IN THIS EPISODE. NO JOKE.
Cue up the eggplant emoji -- we're getting into sexting and dirty talk! Certified sex coach and writer Gigi Engle joins us to discuss what to say in your sexts, rule of nudes, dirty talk in the bedroom (and the best positions for it), what NOT to say about your partner's genitalia, and more. We're also playing a game of That Took a Turn and catching up on Ashley's new life change and Rayna's recent neighbor run-in. Enjoy!
Why Is PCOS Still So Hard for Doctors to Understand?
Based on what we do know, PCOS is a hormonal and metabolic disorder. Its diagnostic criteria can vary, which is a complicated issue we’ll explore in a bit. In general, though, getting a PCOS diagnosis involves some combination of irregular or absent ovulation, ovaries with excess follicles (not cysts—that’s a bit of a misnomer), and high levels of androgens, or hormones that have historically been viewed as “male,” like testosterone. These issues can present as symptoms like irregular periods, acne, excess face and body hair, scalp hair loss, and weight gain, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Per the CDC, the disorder affects an estimated 6 to 12 percent of women of reproductive age, which translates to about 5 million people dealing with this confusing condition. Read more …
By: SELF and Marie Claire Lagroue
The Incredible Shrinking Vagina
There are changes that happen to the vagina and vulva with menopause. We used to call this vaginal atrophy, as the tissue becomes thinner and can even shrink. However, that terminology — while technically medically accurate for some menopause-related changes — sounds dismissive and neglects the fact that these changes affect more than the vagina. We now refer to these changes as genitourinary syndrome of menopause or G.S.M. The vulvar and vaginal symptoms of G.S.M. are distressing for many women. Fortunately, they can almost always be treated. Read more …
By: The New York Times and Dr. Jen Gunter
How to Do Impact Play if You’re a Total Noob
Long thought of as just another form of corporal punishment, spanking has made its way into our erotic consciousness. It has become the hallmark of the kinky sex scene in movies like 9 1/2 Weeks, Secretary, and Fifty Shades of Grey. While it is often associated with S&M (Sadism and Masochism), spankingbetween two consenting partners can be about more than pain. It can be a way to explore your fantasies and broaden your ideas around pleasure playfully. Read more …
By: Allure and Dirty Lola
How Sexual Desire Changes Throughout Marriage
Most people describe experiencing relatively high levels of sexual desire when they enter into new romantic relationships. As a therapist, I've heard countless couples reflect fondly on how they couldn't keep their hands off one another when they first started dating. However, most people also find a high level of sexual passion difficult to maintain as relationships progress.
But, how exactly does sexual desire change over the course of a relationship? What about after marriage? After having kids? And do men and women experience these changes similarly or, perhaps, are there some possible differences? Read more …
By: Psychology Today and Sarah Hunter Murray, Ph.D.
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