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The Kiven Method Is About to Change The Game On Oral Sex (And it Only Takes Three Minutes)
The Kivin Method is a technique that’s best explained as “sideways oral,” says United Kingdom-based sex and relationship expert Annabelle Knight. As opposed to the typical vertical approach, the giver comes in-between the legs at a horizontal angle, which maximizes exposure to the tongue and focus on and across the clitoris, labia majora, and labia minora. “We now know that the clitoris isn’t just a little external nub but instead is a much larger, and longer, internal organ boasting thousands of pleasurable nerve endings,” says Knight. “Instead of being licked up and down, which would miss out on stimulating the crura and bulbs (the arms and legs), licking occurs lengthways [with the Kivin Method], meaning that stimulation is spread over a larger surface area.” And, she adds, some have reported using the method has led to them climaxing in three minutes flat. Read more …
By: Well + Good & MORGAN MANDRIOTA
Marriage Advice From Divorced People
In pursuit of good advice, I spoke with seven individuals who’ve seen matrimony from all angles: women who got married and then divorced. I asked about life as a legally bound couple, and what they think one should consider before becoming part of one themselves. A few things quickly became clear: honesty and trust are paramount, inorganic personal growth from a partner is about as likely as Trit learning to speak Russian, and nothing can beat knowing yourself. Read more …
By: Man Repeller & Ella Quittner
Darkness on The Edge of Courgartown: What No One Tells You About Dating a Younger Man
One day in the winter of 2013, I was walking down the main street of the small town I live in when someone tapped me on the back. I was in a bad mood, days overdue on my health-insurance payment and months overdue on breaking up with someone. Reasons why my life was a mess kept coming at me, like the flying saucers in Asteroids, the only video game I’ve ever played. I was 43 and a half, and I was panicking about my life as if I were stoned. I wasn’t.
I hadn’t heard anyone coming because in addition to freaking out, I was listening to “Erotic City” at full volume. I whirled around. I was looking at one of the handsomest men I’d ever seen, certainly the handsomest man who’d ever gone out of his way to get my attention.
“I’m sorry,” the extremely handsome man said. “I kept shouting your name, but you didn’t hear me, so I ran to catch up with you!” Read more …
By: The Cut and Sarah Miller
Erika Lust: ‘Women want to try porn. But it’s not for us.’ Meet the filmmaker who’s leading a feminist revolution
I’m here because I have been virtually stalking the film’s maker, Erika Lust, a Swedish porn director and pioneer of feminist pornography. She has been heroically bringing equality and female pleasure into the highly misogynistic world of porn. To give you an idea of how important her battle is, consider the stats. Porn sites receive more regular traffic than Netflix, Amazon and Twitter combined, each month. A third of all downloaded content on the web is porn-related, and 64 per cent of people (predominantly males) aged 13 to 24 seek out porn every week. Read more …
By: The Evening Standard and Emily Sheffield
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What You Think You Know About The Male Refractory Period is Probably Wrong
The refractory period is usually defined as a phase following orgasm during which additional orgasms are impossible. Sexual arousal is often said to be very difficult during this time as well. The refractory period is usually discussed in relation to men; women are often said to have no such period, and this difference has been used to explain why women are more likely than men to have multiple orgasms.
This narrative—while extraordinarily popular and pervasive in human sexuality textbooks and websites—might be incorrect, though. The truth of the matter is that we don’t actually know all that much about the refractory period—it’s a “shortcoming” in the sexuality literature, so to speak. Read more …
By: Justin Lehmiller
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