This week’s best sex and relationships news from all around the web.
Interested In BDSM? Here's How To Protect Your Mental Health While Exploring
In a recent study, BDSM practitioners were found to be less neurotic, more extroverted, more open to new experiences, more conscientious, and less sensitive to rejection, and they had a higher subjective well-being.
While this is good news, it's still important to keep in mind some key factors for maintaining your physical and mental health when incorporating BDSM into your sex life, especially if you're experimenting with it for the first time. Read more …
By: Mind Body Green
Research Shows That If You Want to Have Better Sex, You Need to Talk About It With Your Partner
A new meta-analysis from three researchers at the University of Texas at Austin argues for the importance of frank conversation at bedtime (as well as leading up to it). According to their survey of the literature, better conversation leads to better sexual satisfaction, orgasms, and desire levels.
Looking over 48 studies on sexuality, sexual dysfunction, and conversations about sex, the team of Allen Mallory, Amelia Stanton, and Ariel Handy wanted to know if there is a link between sexual communication and sexual function. Are couples that talk about sex better at it? Read more …
By: Big Think
The Best Sex Toys for Guys
Forgoing toys during masturbation and sex is akin to not using all the crayons in one's coloring box. Drawing a sunset with two colors is great, but it’s not going to turn out nearly as stunning as a drawing of a sunset that used a dozen different shades. Sex toys do things you and your partner cannot, no matter how limber you both are. No amount of meditation, fasting, or working out will enable your penis to vibrate on its own. You’re also going to struggle—by virtue of the limitations of the human anatomy—to stimulate your own prostate, aka the male G-spot, while simultaneously jerking yourself off. That's where prostate massagers and vibrating butt plugs come in. Read more …
Chronic Urinary Tract Pain Affects Tons of Women. And We Need to Be Talking About It
Urinary tract infections are one of the most common ailments women encounter, with at least 40 to 60 percent of them getting one during their lifetime, according to the National Institutes of Health. Read more …
By: The Washington Post
Talking to Your Doctor About Your Identity
Unfortunately, despite receiving diversity training, many providers ignore the importance of identity in treatment or actively perpetuate racism, sexism, transphobia, body shaming, etc. in the therapy room or the doctor’s office.
How can you, as the client or patient, address the importance of identity with a health care provider if you are not receiving the right level of affirmative care? How can you start a conversation about sex, gender, race, ethnicity, etc. with your therapist or your doctor? Read more …
What Sex Research Can Show Us About Our Readiness for Long-Term Relationships
Is this a good time for you to have a serious relationship? Is your date or lover ready for a monogamous and long-term commitment? Such considerations can have an impact on both the direction and quality of your future relationship together. At least, that is what the research indicates... Read more …
By: Psychology Today
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