Ask Gigi: I'm Thinking About Buying a Panty Vibrator. Are They Worth The Hype?
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Panty vibes are all over the place right now. So, for today’s Ask Gigi I decided to test the new We-Vibe Moxie and see if it was worth all the hype.
I’m just going to come right out and say that I am very skeptical of panty vibrators. I’ve tried a good many on the market and have always been left unimpressed. Like, what is the point of a panty vibrator? They sit in a pocket in special “vibrator panty underwear” and send low-grade vibrations through silk or cotton to my vulva. They don’t make me orgasm; I can barely even feel them buzzing half the time.
Other panty vibes I’ve tried have been alright, but nowhere near strong enough to do much for me. I’ve always sort of viewed panty vibrators as more of a gimmick than anything else. I need strong, direct stimulation to my clitoris to orgasm. Like, give me a wand vibrator over anything else, any day. I’m a woman who knows what she likes.
Other annoying issues I’ve had with panty vibrators is slippage and comfort. Other panty vibes I’ve used have had issues staying in place. I’ve spent more time adjusting panty vibes to their rightful place over my clitoris than I have actually enjoying the sensations. A few have been so hard that they literally chafe my labia. I have super sensitive labia and I have to be mindful of what I put near them; even the wrong underwear can leave me raw. Sorry for the graphic image, but I’m not playing here.
So, considering I’m quite well-seasoned in the ins and outs of panty vibrators (and so not about them), I figured giving another one a shot couldn’t hurt (unless it literally, well, hurt me).
I was fully prepared for another dud of a vibe.
I wanted to know whether the Moxie vibrator from We-Vibe was worth the hype. This picky-ass B decided to find out.
As any good sex pioneer would, I decided to take this baby for a spin in the real world. I made sure my toy was all charged up before hitting the grocery store. I had a pretty long list, so I figured there was no harm in making this boring errand a little more fun. I brought along my remote control so I could easily change up the speeds while perusing summer vegetables and deciding between the squash or zucchini. (Moxie can also be controlled from even farther away using We-Vibe's We Connect app.)
I’m not going to lie; it was fun wandering around a crowded grocery store with my panties vibrating. It was this kinky little secret I had and no one knew. Moxie is very quiet, so I didn’t have to worry about disturbing elderly women buying milk with my crotch buzzing. The toy's silky silicone body was soft against my labia. Even meandering aimlessly around the store, looking for beef broth and refusing to ask for help, felt nice.
But the Moxie isn't all fun and games. It's actually a very powerful panty vibrator. Like, shockingly so. You can feel it whether you’re walking, sitting, or lying down. I found it especially buzz-y all up on my clitoris when I was reaching down for items on lower shelves in the store. I’ll never look at a family-sized jar of Skippy the same way again.
As I’ve mentioned, I’ve had issues with panty vibrators staying in place. You get moving and suddenly your thighs are knocking everything out of place. Moxie has a magnetic clip that holds it in place on your panties. It stays put and is super convenient. You don’t need a special pair of underwear with a pocket to use this toy. You can be out the door to a movie and decide to pop it on before grabbing your car keys. This is a great feature for anyone who isn’t a fan of thong underwear.
Like most panty vibes I’ve tried, I didn’t have an orgasm from the Moxie. I did, however, get extremely turned on. My trip to the grocery store quickly turned into a speedy drive home and a dirty FaceTime chat with my fiancé.
We’ve decided to keep it in the rotation. It’s become a fun part of our foreplay. When we’re at dinner he’ll take his phone out - to my chagrin (who wants their partner using a phone during a meal?!) - only to be pleasantly surprise me. He wasn’t checking email at all, but turning up the heat on my downstairs situation. I’m a big fan of this.
I also tested this baby’s claim to be waterproof. Some toys will basically keel over and die the minute you submerge them in hot bath water. This little guy was just fine in the tub! It doubles as a simple clitoral vibrator. Let me tell you a secret .... I did orgasm when using it this way! I’m the queen of baths so any sex toy that can hang will rank high on my list.
The Moxie is a good way for couples to connect on a new level and try something new. It’s kinky and naughty, without the need for handcuffs or a whip. Is the Moxie worth the hype? Maybe not if your ultimate goal is to have orgasms while on the go, but it’s definitely a good choice if you’re looking for something new and fun to try. I’m giving this a thumbs up.
I hope this helps all you sex toy shoppers. Enjoy! Love you.
This post originally appeared on Kinkly.
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