Ask Gigi: Is It Normal That I Feel Like I Need to Pee During Sex?
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OK. This might sound a little random, but is it normal to have to pee during sex? Because this happens to me and it’s SO annoying. Any help?
I totally understand where you’re coming from. The sudden need to pee during sex can be an alarming prospect. One second you’re enjoying intercourse with your partner and the next you need to run to the bathroom. Seriously, what is the deal?
The urge to urinate during sex is actually a lot more common than you might expect. 'It can be completely normal to feel the urge to pee during sexual intercourse. In fact around 60 per cent of women feel the urge to pee during sex,' says Dr Sherry A. Ross, M.D. OB/GYN, a women’s health expert and author of she-ology. The Definitive Guide to Women’s Intimate Health. Period
So, babe, here is what you need to know!
Make sure you pee before AND after sex
Have heard the (somewhat) common advice to pee after sex in order to prevent a urinary tract infection (UTI)? While this information is absolutely correct, you should also be sure to pee before sex as well.
The urethra and bladder are adjacent to the vaginal canal. When the bladder is full, sex can make urgency more apparent - and even cause it.
The urethra and bladder are adjacent to the vaginal canal. When the bladder is full, sex can make urgency more apparent.
As you move during intercourse, the bladder gets, well, bumped around a bit. Your sexual organs are all quite close to one another.
'It's not uncommon that people feel [like you need to pee] because of the pressure being applied to the bladder through vaginal insertion of a toy/penis or the position they're in during sex,' Kristine D'Angelo, a certified sex coach and clinical sexologist tells me.
So, definitely make a pit stop to the bathroom before sex to ensure this doesn’t happen to you. If anything, it will give you peace of mind to know you’re not squishing an overly full bladder before getting busy.
Vaginal dryness might be the culprit
If you always feel the need to pee during sex, the easiest solution could be investing in some reliable lube. Vaginal dryness can lead to irritation of the urethral canal, resulting in a sense of urgency during sex.
There are tons of lubes to choose from. I always recommend opting for a reliable water-based product that is free of parabens and glycerine. My most recent favorite is Yes WB. You can also use a high-quality silicone-based lube like Pjur lube. The mucus-rich tissue of the vagina and vulva are some of the most highly absorbent in the human body. Don’t use low-grade ingredients!
💡When it comes to sexual play of any kind, you should be using lube. The more lube the better. Even if you think you get wet enough, lube makes everything better. You’ll have better sex and more orgasms.
Is needing to pee linked to the G-spot orgasm?
Have you taken some time to find the G-spot? Now is the time, girl! Get yourself a hand-mirror and look at that vulva! Viva la vulva!
The G-spot is located within the first few inches inside of the vaginal canal. To locate it, insert one or two fingers into the vagina and hook up toward the belly button. It should feel like a walnut textured patch. This spot is less of a “spot” and more of a G-spot “area.” It is the backend of the clitoris. This area lives in close proximity to the urethral sponge and Skene’s Glands - the glands responsible for female ejaculation.
When the G-spot is activated, it can simultaneously stimulate the urethral sponge and urethra, causing the sensation to urinate.
Additionally, when the Skene’s Glands fill with fluid, it can add further pressure to the urethra. So chances are you don’t really need to pee, it just feels that way. Needing to pee is often the preface for squirting.
When to see a doctor
Needing to pee during sex is usually normal, but there are times when you should consult your doctor or gynecologist. For instance, if the urgency is accompanied by pain, this could indicate an infection of the bladder or a UTI. You should always talk to your doctor if you’re experiencing pain during intercourse.
Another reason this might be happening? Weak pelvic floor muscles. 'If you have any problems with pelvic floor weakness from a vaginal birth, chronic coughing, sneezing, constipation or regular high-impact exercises this can also lead to an urge to pee during sex,' Ross explains.
The best way to strengthen the pelvic floor is by doing Kegel exercises. Read this guide if you want to try them! Before you try anything new, always consult your doctor.
Hope this helps, cutie!
This piece originally appeared on NetDoctor