Ask Gigi: How Do I Prevent Pain During Sex?
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What can I do prevent painful sex especially if you haven’t had in like 8 months .. also does it matter one what size the tip of the penis? Also, how can I increase lubrication in the vagina to have less painful sex?
OK, here is what I have for you as far preventing painful sex. With any luck with will help you have better experiences! Share this with your friends, if you want. We could all do better to share information with our fellow females so we can all take our sexuality into our own hands.
First of all, penis size can be a factor if you're not properly aroused, but sex can be painful with pretty much any sized penis if you're not properly aroused and move too fast. Slow everything down. That's the first tip.
Many women associate pain with sex. And nearly every woman will feel pain at some point in her life during intercourse. This is not normal thinking, we’ve just normalized it. We have to stop acting like female pain is normal. It's not. According to recent data, nearly 75 percent of women experience pain during sex at some point. It's common, but it is NOT NORMAL.
Here are some things to think on and put into practice. Advocate for yourself. Do not just grit your teeth and hope everything will be over soon. Communicate with your partners. And if they aren't having it, don't have sex with them. Ever.
Make sure you're ready for penetration
When we're turned on the vagina expands and lubricates itself. Your vagina needs to be ready to accommodate a penis or dildo. When the vagina is not aroused, the walls lie flat against one another, making penetration painful, uncomfortable, and straight up not pleasurable in the slightest.
A dry vagina can lead to tearing, abrasions, and even vaginal infections. This is one of the reasons society has normalized painful sex for women: Because women getting physically aroused before intercourse is not a prerequisite for intercourse ... which is absolutely should be.
If possible, have an orgasm before you even attempt to have sexual intercourse. This will help get your vagina ready to take a penis, dildo, or toy inside of it.
Use a ton of lube. The more lube the better. If you're having sex with more than one partner or you and your partner have not been screened for STIs, always use a water-based or silicone lubricant. Lube makes everything better. It doesn't matter how "wet" you get or don't get it, USE LUBE.
Put lube on the penis, on your vulva, and on both the inside and outside of the condom. The condom will stay in place as long as you put it on correctly. Watch the video below for proper condom instructions.
I also love CBD lube. My fav CBD lube is Foria’s Awaken. It offers 100 mgs of broad spectrum CBD. It helps your pelvic floor muscles relax and it relieves much of the symptoms associated with vulvodynia (a condition when the vulva or vagina is painful). On top of that, this lube increases blood flow to the clitoris for heightened sensitivity and can drastically improve natural vaginal lubrication.
If you experience pain, try OhNut
OhNut works by limiting penetrative depth, which can help if you experience pain during sex.
The OhNut looks like a caterpillar made of medical-grade silicone. It comes with four squishy, stackable rings. The person doing the penetrating wears the OhNut during sex. This spongey, ingenious invention allows you to control the depth of penetration; You stack the rings to control how deep a partner can go. It's super easy to use.
Use them with lube! Stick with a water-based lubricant because silicone can actually break down silicone sex toys and devices and no one needs that in their life, ya know?
I hope this helps! I'm including some more links to articles below so you have have more information.
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