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Tips for Dating Someone With a Disability

IWhat do you do if you see a hot person with a disability out and about or on one of your dating apps and you want to ask them out? Because there is not a lot of visibility or information about people with disabilities, able-bodied people often don’t know what to do or how to act around us.

I am here to help! I am a queer sex educator who is also disabled, I have cerebral palsy which for me means I use a wheelchair and I am non-verbal so I communicate by spelling out what I want to say on a letter board. Needless to say, I have had a lot of experience dating in a able-bodied world. Read more …

By: Salty and Eva Sweeney

Autumn in New York. 🍂 Seasons of love. ♥️ And always rent, mortgage, tax, fees, & maintenance season. 🎨 @mister.achilles who I 💖 so much! #nyc #drip #screamingvulva #realestate

Scientists Study Bunnies Having Sex to Figure Out The Evolutionary Reason Why Women Have Orgasms

Gunter Wagner, PhD, a professor at Yale, and Mihaela Pavlicev, PhD, a professor from the University of Cincinnati, published the study in PNAS and hypothesized that the female orgasm “was a happy evolutionary gift inherited from older lineages of animals who only ovulate during copulation,” according to a press release on the Yale site. Read more …

By: Cosmo and Carina Hsieh

NippleGasms? 🌸 During a study in 2011 using fMRI brain scans, it was discovered that the genital parts of the brain light up when the nipples are stimulated! 🌸 . Because of this, nipple stimulation during sex can be super enjoyable as it increases arousal - even leading to some people having nipple induced orgasms. 🌸 . Whether or not you've had this experience, it might be fun to explore your nipples during solo play, giving them more time and attention with cooling temperature lubes, warming massage oils, nipple clamps, or feathers for the more delicate ones. See if you can build up orgasmic energy in your pelvic floor. 🌸 . #orgasm #nipple #freethenipple #solo #sexuality #femalesexuality #nonbinary #transpositive #selfcare #selflove #selfpleasure #masturbation

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BOUNDARY SETTING AND CONSENT 101 Consent is freely given, reversible, informed, enthusiastic, and specific permission to what is about to happen in that moment. A good example of attaining consent would be, "Is it okay if I rub on you here?" It is a direct question that allows the other person to express their desires in that moment. If the answer is "yes!" then move forward with whatever you gained consent for. If the answer is an unclear answer like "uhhhhh" or a clear answer like "no", then ask them what THEY feel comfortable doing instead. It is important to gain consent because while someone may seem like they are enjoying themselves, they may not want to take things further, and it's important to afford them the space to verbalize that. Boundary setting is identifying what is okay and not okay in advance. For example, whenever I become active with a new sexual partner I let them know my STI status, let them know the last time I was tested for STIs, let them know if I am currently having sex with other partners, and then include my boundaries. This could sound something like, "I LOVE it when I'm kissed during sex but I don't like getting my hair pulled so please do not do that." This lets your partner know in advance what is okay and not okay so you don't even have to worry about there being a misunderstanding. Another way to go about boundary setting is using a yes/no/maybe list. I have several yes/no/maybe lists linked on my website so click the link in my bio to get a digital copy of the yes/no/maybe lists for you and your partners. I get a lot of questions about how to make consent and boundary setting sexy and not ruin the moment. It's very simple: be confident! You can still ask for consent in a sexy/turned on voice, you can still set boundaries in a way that is positive by following with what turns you on, and you can make sure you're maintaining consent throughout the exchange by asking sexy questions like "do you like that?" or "how does that feel?" This keeps the lines of communication open and ensures that all participants are having a wonderful time. How do you keep the lines of communication open with a partner?? pc: pussypedia

What We’re Misunderstanding About Love — And How To Do It Right

Dipping my toes into polyamory this year and rereading the words of author and social activist bell hooks has entirely shifted my perspective. It has caused me to examine some of the assumptions I had about love, many of which I’d never even realized I had — I had just accepted and let them run on autopilot in the back of my brain. These ideas were so invisible to me I thought of them as common sense. I assumed they were beliefs everyone shared. Read more …

By: Gabrielle Alexa and Swipe Life

Security is an illusion. No matter your relationship style, you can't guarantee that your pals will stay in it, or that you will for that matter. Monogamy can offer us the promise of security through marriage, but as you've probably noticed, divorce rates show it's an empty promise. Because monogamous folks break up just as frequently (and for the same reasons) as polyam people do. A relationship style isn't going to determine the longevity of your relationship. Only the people within your relationship have the power to make it last. Feeling more secure in your relationship can be as counterintuitive as giving up your need to restrict your pal, and allowing them to wander, knowing they will come back. It takes time and practice to manage jealousy and insecurities, but it's completely possible. Security comes from the strength and resilience you cultivate with your pals and yourself, not from your relationship style. 💜 I'm available for peer-support sessions if you want to chat about bi-erasure, queerness, sex, love, relationships. Send me a DM ❤️💃🏻❤️💃🏻 #sexpositive #sexology #queerart #radicalselflove #sexy #feminist #feminism #loveyourself #love #relationship #couple #respect #lgbtq #sexuality #sexeducation #womenempowerment #art #artist #design #doodle #drawing #sketch #graphicdesign #digitalart #procreate #sketchbook #illustration #cauliflowerhour #shrimpteeth

'Fizzing' Is the Non-Breakup Breakup That’s Confusing Millennials

Fizzing is not the same as ghosting, where one party is left to torture themselves with the question of what they did wrong. Fizzing is when you happily date someone for a couple of months, and things peter out without a formal breakup conversation. (FYI: The word "fizzing" comes from the relationship "fizzling out.") Read more …

By: Men’s Health, Zachary Zane, and Philip Ellis

As soon as images were able to be sent using technology, explicit photos/porn was exchanged. A reminder that sex work is a part of sextech and that sex work is work. - art by @sarah.epperson

This App Will Guide You Through Masturbation

Guided masturbation apps are for people of all sexual identities and interests. They help arouse, distract, and introduce you to new fantasies and turn-ons outside of your IRL experiences, Carol Queen, PhD, staff sexologist at erotica store Good Vibrations, tells Health. The apps "utilize our highly personal relationships with our mobile devices and app technologies to unite people with erotica, and audio erotica, in a beautifully packaged and friendly format,” she says. Read more …

By: Health and Morgan Madriota

✔️ ✔️ ✔️ ✔️ ✔️ ✔️ . . . . . . Hump day 📸 via @carytauben - wish we could get this sold out t by @yg 💫

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I Didn’t Have My First Orgasm Until I Was 28, Thanks to Chronic Pelvic Pain

I was woefully unprepared for the blinding pain that would crash through my body the first time I tried to insert a tampon. Admittedly, I had tuned out during most of the sex ed classes in middle school—I was a hypochondriac, so listening to someone talk about STDs and how scary pregnancy is sent me running to the nurse’s office—but none of my friends mentioned anything about pain when they recapped the class to me later.

After my first encounter with a tampon at 13, it took me a year to work up the courage to try using one again, the echoes of the crippling pain pressed into memory. Every time I did try to insert anything, that same intense, sharp pain returned. I never asked any of my friends if they too could only wear pads, because I was too ashamed. Read more …

By: Glamour and Allyson Byers

Mantra.🙏🏽 * * * #whattheslut #youdoyou #mantra

No, Duh!: Older people should have more sex, study shows

Sexual activity is an essential part of intimate relationships, though it tends to decline as people get older. But although research shows that frequency of sexual activity can decrease with age, for many older people, sex still remains an important part of their life.

There’s a common misconception that as people age, they lose their interest in sex and capacity for sexual behaviour. But, as a UK survey shows, this isn’t the case. Read more …

By: The Independent

When you have solo sex do you get straight to the action or do you engage your mind and body first? Virbrators are fantastic because they allow us to bypass the sometimes long process of turning our entire bodies on. The pure power of vibration can jumpstart your genitals and allow you to fast forward to orgasm quicker than is possible manually. But when we isolate the self-stimulation to our genitals and exclusively use power tools, we might cheat ourselves out of our full pleasure potential. How often do you actually warm yourself up and turn yourself on in the same way you would expect a partner to do so? Sensual, full body touch should not be reserved purely for partnered sex. It's natural and empowering to provide that very touch to yourself too. It doesn't need to be every single time that you self-pleasure, but if you find yourself in the mood with a little bit of extra time, then switch off netflix and try out some of these techniques and see if you can derive even more pleasure from your self love practices. 🌸 Remove distraction. Close out the outside world. Put on a playlist that you love. Light a candle. 🌸 Think about what could turn you on today and let your mind wander. If you want to use porn or erotic literature then get it lined up first to avoid the distraction of endless browsing later. 🌸 Lightly caress your whole body with your fingertips. 🌸Massage your arms, your chest, your thighs. Try using a scented oil or cream. 🌸 Stroke along your skin with a feather or silk scarf. 🌸 Focus on your breathing. Think about the sensations. If you get distracted that's fine, acknowledge it and then direct your thoughts back to the sensation. 🌸 When or if you decide to move to your vulva, penis or bum, continue to tease yourself until you can't hold back anymore. 🌸 Quicken the pace slightly or switch to a toy. 🌸 If you find yourself nearing orgasm, maybe you'll want to slow the pace down so it subsides before building up the sensation again. Edging in this way can lead to more intense orgasms. 🌸 If you become frustrated or find yourself unable to orgasm, that's okay too. The aim is to experience more pleasure, not to rush to a climax.

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LISTEN TO THIS: Why Are People Into That? Cake Sitting with Lindsay Dye, Pt. 1 & 2

About this episode and why you should bother listening: "The fetish itself is anti-consumption.” Lindsay Dye is a cam model, performance artist, and sculptor who specializes in the fetish known as cake sitting. In this episode, she explains the intersection of WAM (Wet & Messy Play) with crushing fetishism, as well as how Miami, empathy, clowning, power, laughter, tears, and more inform her public sittings.

Reminders for today and every day. Art by @naneahoffman // @sweatpantsandcoffee 💕

Want To Orgasm Faster and More Frequently?

Sometimes you just want to come sooner rather than later. Whether you want to get more out of a quickie with a partner, sneak in a quick masturbation session before your favorite TV show begins, or simply beat a personal record, there are several tricks you can try to speed up your orgasm. Read more …

By: Refinery29 and Erika W. Smith

4 Remarkable Ways to Reignite Your Sexual Spark That Have Nothing to Do With Physical Touch

The fact that society’s experiencing an ever-spiraling sexual decline may not seem like the biggest problem we're facing, but sex plays an integral, foundational role in the health of any relationship. Studieshave shown that post-coital cuddles promote a greater sense of satisfaction within a relationship, which can improve communication and affection. Sex also keeps us mentally healthier as individuals. Read more …

By: NBC and Wendy Rose Gould

If you can speak eloquently through a ball you're a witch end of story

Bumble article comments indicate the rise of a far-right feminist-backlash

My dual identities as a woman and a researcher surfaced again as I read the comments on my article and saw the reactions on social media. Given the feminist analysis in my story, I anticipated some backlash. I have experienced similar push-back in my research on sex work, an issue that can illicit charged emotional responses.

But what I didn’t expect was the volume of angry comments from mostly male readers. What bothered them the most seemed to be the f-word: feminism. Read more …

By: The Conversation and Treena Orchard

How does celibacy affect your health?

How often a person has sex naturally changes from time to time, depending on age, fluctuations in sex drive, and relationship status. Many people enjoy a full and satisfying life without ever having sex.

In a study looking at data from 17,744 people in the United States, 15.2% of males and 26.7% of females reported having no sex in the last year, while 8.7% of males and 17.5% of females reported not having had sex for 5 years or more.

The authors concluded that "sexless Americans reported very similar happiness levels as their sexually active counterparts." Read more …

By: Medical News Daily and Zawn Villines

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Why Does Sex Suddenly Become Painful?

Pain during sex isn't totally uncommon—we've all felt the cringe that follows not using enough lube. Around 12 to 16 percent of women report consistently painful sex, says Deborah Coady, M.D., a New York City ob-gyn and author of Healing Painful Sex, and there are many more who experience periodic pain.

If you do have any pain during the action, it's important to pay attention. Read more …

By: Glamour and Elyssa Goodman

How BDSM Can Help Heal Trauma and Emotional Pain

In my earliest heterosexual encounters, I never felt like I had much of a choice in anything. Once the guy began making advances, if he wasn’t terrible or mean (and sometimes even if he was), I just tried to relax and take it. I (wrongly) thought that once you said yes to having sex, you’d set that understanding: You now have sex together. I didn’t want to be a cock-tease or cause blue balls, both conditions I’d heard could literally cripple a man.

In the kink community, I found a totally different way to consider power, consent, and exploration. I found myself attracted to this community of people who operated with an enthusiastic yes, where everything was based on consent. Read more …

By: Salty and Leah Blooms

[This post was removed and I gotta ask - what exactly is "inappropriate" here? 😂 Y'ALL TOO TURNED ON BY FACE HUGGERS? Not even pussy or nipples in this one 😂] Inktober 5: ALIEN #inktober #inktober2018 ... #art #artwork #artist #nude #bodypositive #erotic #alien #bodypositivity #feminist #feminism #ink #xenomorph #inkdrawing #drawing #illustration #sketch #hairy #bodyhair #sketchbook #sexy #funny #facehugger #portrait #design #lol #clubc_inktober

Can Sex Survive Marriage? What Do You Need to Keep to Intimacy Alive Over Time?

Researchers have long pondered how relationship satisfaction and sexual satisfaction influence one another during long-term relationships. Studies have looked at various aspects in isolation, but it isn't clear how they interact with each other. Is a good sexual relationship necessary for overall relationship satisfaction?

Does having a quality relationship make a married couple's sex life better? Is it possible to stay married and be sexually satisfied? Read more …

By: Psychology Today and Grant Hilary Brenner, MD.

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Making The Rules: How Sex Work Helped Me Reclaim Agency In My Relationships

Like many people wading through their young adult life, I felt depressed, unhappy, and unfulfilled in my relationship during my “Saturn Return.” I felt disconnected from everyone, including myself and my body. I contemplated suicide. Change became inevitable because I literally couldn’t stay in the same position; I just wanted to find contentment in my life.

So here’s my truth: it was sex work that allowed me to feel confident and empowered and to put my feelings and comfort first — in life, in work, and especially in dating men. Read more …

By: Salty and Graci Love

Repeat after me: We don't like people who don't like us. 🎨 @leatiziamichelle

It’s Just Hair, but When You’re a Trans Woman, a Ponytail Can Mean a Whole Lot More

When I was in kindergarten—and very much in the closet as transgender—I had begun to crave a ponytail like the ones I saw on many of the girls in my class. I’m well aware that for many girls and women, the ponytail is a “bare minimum” style, often for lazy days, but the girls I saw in my class emulated the women I saw on television who were strong, confident, and successful. I thought they were cool, and I understood immediately I could never have one.

Even at six, I knew better. I was raised in deeply conservative Texas, in a world with firmly cemented gender roles. I was a boy and I had better keep to “boy things.” The bouncy ponytail of my dreams? Not a boy thing. Read more …

By: Glamour and Charlotte Clymer

Thinking @drjengunter and I might be soulmates... It's like she read my mind. #vibrators4ever | hilarious tweet c/o @bellesaco

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LISTEN TO THIS: Girls Gotta Eat - Thank U, Sext

About this episode and why you should bother listening: First of ALL, I AM IN THIS EPISODE. NO JOKE.

Cue up the eggplant emoji -- we're getting into sexting and dirty talk! Certified sex coach and writer Gigi Engle joins us to discuss what to say in your sexts, rule of nudes, dirty talk in the bedroom (and the best positions for it), what NOT to say about your partner's genitalia, and more. We're also playing a game of That Took a Turn and catching up on Ashley's new life change and Rayna's recent neighbor run-in. Enjoy!

💯💯💯 Rp 👉 @thecollectivesource 💙

Why Is PCOS Still So Hard for Doctors to Understand?

Based on what we do know, PCOS is a hormonal and metabolic disorder. Its diagnostic criteria can vary, which is a complicated issue we’ll explore in a bit. In general, though, getting a PCOS diagnosis involves some combination of irregular or absent ovulation, ovaries with excess follicles (not cysts—that’s a bit of a misnomer), and high levels of androgens, or hormones that have historically been viewed as “male,” like testosterone. These issues can present as symptoms like irregular periods, acne, excess face and body hair, scalp hair loss, and weight gain, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Per the CDC, the disorder affects an estimated 6 to 12 percent of women of reproductive age, which translates to about 5 million people dealing with this confusing condition. Read more …

By: SELF and Marie Claire Lagroue

The Incredible Shrinking Vagina

There are changes that happen to the vagina and vulva with menopause. We used to call this vaginal atrophy, as the tissue becomes thinner and can even shrink. However, that terminology — while technically medically accurate for some menopause-related changes — sounds dismissive and neglects the fact that these changes affect more than the vagina. We now refer to these changes as genitourinary syndrome of menopause or G.S.M. The vulvar and vaginal symptoms of G.S.M. are distressing for many women. Fortunately, they can almost always be treated. Read more …

By: The New York Times and Dr. Jen Gunter

This amazing infographic from @radicalroadmaps (Regram @decrimny ) is just a beginner lesson covering the negative impacts of FOSTA/SESTA on the sex work population. Rights not regulations. Decriminalize sex work - it's just a damn job after all. #sexwork #sexworkersrights #swop #sexworkersrights #fosta #sesta #decrimny #fuckfosta #decriminalizesexwork #decriminalize

How to Do Impact Play if You’re a Total Noob

Long thought of as just another form of corporal punishment, spanking has made its way into our erotic consciousness. It has become the hallmark of the kinky sex scene in movies like 9 1/2 Weeks, Secretary, and Fifty Shades of Grey. While it is often associated with S&M (Sadism and Masochism), spankingbetween two consenting partners can be about more than pain. It can be a way to explore your fantasies and broaden your ideas around pleasure playfully. Read more …

By: Allure and Dirty Lola

How Sexual Desire Changes Throughout Marriage

Most people describe experiencing relatively high levels of sexual desire when they enter into new romantic relationships. As a therapist, I've heard countless couples reflect fondly on how they couldn't keep their hands off one another when they first started dating. However, most people also find a high level of sexual passion difficult to maintain as relationships progress.

But, how exactly does sexual desire change over the course of a relationship? What about after marriage? After having kids? And do men and women experience these changes similarly or, perhaps, are there some possible differences? Read more …

By: Psychology Today and Sarah Hunter Murray, Ph.D.

Honestlyyyyyyyy probably not lol 🌺I hope this serves you. 🙏 @femalepositivity✨🎨Artist/Credit🖊: Unknown (please tag below if you know)

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This life-threatening pregnancy complication is the next frontier in the abortion debate

Ectopic pregnancies can be deadly.

The condition happens in about 2 percent of all pregnancies, when a fertilized egg implants somewhere outside the uterus — usually in the fallopian tube, a tiny structure connecting the uterus to the ovary. If the pregnancy continues to grow and develop, the tube can rupture, and the pregnant person can hemorrhage and die. Read more …

Today is self-care Sunday so make sure you're loving yourself, your body, and your heart today. Text your crush, take some cute pictures of yourself FOR yourself, take a bath with apple cider vinegar and epsom salt in it (great for your pH), write a list reminding you of all the incredible things your body does for you, blast your favorite song on repeat, sleep naked (it helps with self esteem and allows your genitals space to breathe), masturbate, binge watch your favorite show, let yourself process your feelings, and know that this is YOUR day. Leave your self-care regime in the comments, I'm curious to know your routine 😏 I love you. You belong here. Now I'm going to go take a bath, later gator. 😘 P.S. ( Vibrator AND Lube giveaways are still going on!! Enter to win so I can send you some great goodies to make your next self-care Sunday even better! 😉) 📷: @goodcleanlove

How BDSM and Leather Communities Helped These Gay Men Confront Their HIV Diagnoses

When most folks think of the BDSM community, they think leather, chains, whips, and a leashed slave being led on all fours by his master. Undoubtedly, these are major parts of the BDSM scene, which stands for bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism. BDSM spaces and sex parties have historically been a way for sex-positive individuals to embrace societally deemed taboos. But what's often overlooked in these spaces are the numerous benefits they can have to one's psychological wellbeing, especially for recently HIV-positive queer men.

Like many people, after his HIV diagnosis, Matty Lalime felt sorry for himself. He was afraid of getting sick, and unsure of how friends and family would react. Luckily, he worked at a leather shop in San Francisco and was already active in the BDSM, leather, and sex-party communities. Read more …

By: The Body

Instagram post by @gjalle * Sep 15, 2019 at 1:04pm UTC

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LISTEN TO THIS: Six Minute Sex Ed

About: Six Minute Sex Ed helps people talk openly about sex and relationships, created by Kim Cavill, Sex Education Teacher. Level one episodes cover the basics, Level Two episodes are more complex. Six Minute Sex Ed is inclusive, informative, and sex positive.

Them: "You got big plans tonight?" Me: .... 😘💪

America Has A Sex Education Problem

“Sex education in the United States compared to many other developed nations is quite poor, and in many places it doesn’t even really address sexuality all that much,” says Justin Garcia, research director at the Kinsey Institute. The coursework fails to answer vital questions like, “What do you know about your own body? What do you know about potential partners’ bodies? About male and female sexual anatomy and reproductive health? Study after study shows that we’re not doing a great job.” Read more …

By: SwipeLife

I Like My Husband... But I Love My Vibrator

I am a lucky woman. My home is clean, my bills are paid, and my children are happy. I have both health and (moderate) wealth. And my husband? He is sweet and adoring. He is hardworking, funny, and sexy AF. But thanks to familial changes — and physical ones — I am not attracted to him, i.e. I prefer my vibrator to my husband.

Read more …

By: Ravishly

By @farida.d.author . . . #mybodymychoice #nouterusnoopinion #feminist #feminism #prochoice #prochoiceisprolife #womensart #womensreproductivehealth #womensrightsarehumanrights

You’re a Couple Looking for a Third. I’m a Potential Unicorn. Let’s Talk.

or the uninitiated, the term unicorn-hunting typically describes the practice of an established couple searching for a third partner to engage in either threesomes or triads (relationships between three people). Often, though not always, the couple is made up of a straight cisgender man and a queer (usually bisexual, pansexual, or omnisexual—bi+ for short) or bicurious cisgender woman, and they’re looking for a bi+ cisgender woman who is equally attracted to both of them and interested in whatever arrangement they had in mind. Read more…

By: SELF

Is Snooping In A Relationship Ever OK? Here’s What A Sex Therapist Says

Who hasn't been tempted to take a little peek at their partner's phone? While smartphones are machines that are technically separate from our bodies, they can also feel like an extension of our brains. And they’re an extension that lets us do a lot more than our brains can: watch porn, reach out to people on the other side of the world, have entire relationships on social media… You know the possibilities.

So when a partner restricts access to a device or an account, for some people, it can be really scary! It’s like not knowing what’s going on in a part of your partner’s brain — and life. But is snooping ever OK? Read more …

By: Bustle

Oh, so true! #Repost @blessingmanifesting with @get_repost ・・・ In honor of #recoverymonth I wanted to share with you this quote. I found it (or it found me) when I was in a relationship with someone in active addiction. I clung to these words. When you're in a relationship with someone who is an alcoholic or an addict you're often put into the role of a caregiver, whether you want it or not. These words were a revelation to me and for my mental health. Maybe they'll help you too. <3 #quotestoliveby #quotesaboutlife #relationshipquotes

Wankonomicon III: Bedtime wank, exorcism and workplace wanks

Luke – aka @Beardynoise – joins Girl on the Net to deliver the third installment of the Wankonomicon. In volume 1 of the Wankonomicon he detailed danger wanks, business wanks and procrasturbation. Volume II covered luxury wanks and more. Today, Luke is taking an in-depth look at one of my personal faves – the bedtime wank – alongside workplace wanks and exorcism wanks. Enjoy! Read more …

By: Girl On The Net

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6 Myths We Need to Stop Believing About Squirting

Squirting is having a moment. It’s consistently among Pornhub’s 20 most popular categories, with a dramatic rise in popularity in recent years. And sex educator Lola Jean’s squirting classes sell out faster than any other class she teaches.

However, just because people are watching lots of squirting porn doesn’t mean they know a lot about squirting. In fact, many misconceptions still shroud this poorly understood phenomenon. Read more …

By: Kinkly

Regardless of the situation, ALL of your feelings are valid. Inside and outside of the bedroom. Form a relationship through trust and love where you can always voice your feelings and know your partner will be there to support you.

A LEEP PROCEDURE COULD MEAN YOU NEVER ORGASM AGAIN

The procedure, first performed in the U.S. in 1990, is like a second line of defense, excising cells that may otherwise lead to cancer. It’s fast—a doctor slices into the cervix and scoops out sketchy tissue, the same way you might cut a bruise out of an apple. And it usually works, reducing a person’s cancer risk back down to zero.

It’s also super common. Up to one million women in the U.S. are diagnosed every year with abnormal cervical cells, or what MDs call cervical dysplasia. Not all cases are high risk, but if doctors feel the precancerous spots need to be removed, LEEP is the most popular treatment. But it might mean a lot more for your sex life. Read more …

By: Cosmo

THE LIMIT DOES NOT EXIST 💁‍♀️

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LISTEN TO THIS: Sex With Emily, What to Expect When You’re Expecting a Threesome

About this episode and why you should listen to it: On today's show, Emily is talking about the number one fantasy for men and women ? that's right, threesomes! And she is answering your questions. She breaks down all the boundaries, aftercare, & outcomes that must be discussed with your partner before adding a third, other ways to have sex when penetration is temporarily off the table, and what to do when your are constantly on the road looking for love but have no faith in dating apps.

Imagine what the world would be like if everyone understood this concept!

Everything You Never Knew You Needed to Know About Cake Sitting (Yes, It’s a Thing People Are Into)

The story of cake sitting is that I got a private message in my chatroom that someone wanted me to sit on my cat. My cat is a large presence in my chatroom. People know her. They know her name. They tip me when she comes on the camera. And this person was serious, because I received this message multiple times over months.

And so I started researching, and it’s not just something ― it is evil and gross ― but it’s a part of a crushing fetish that starts with small insects and moves up to larger animals. So obviously, I refused to do this, but while I was investigating crushing fetishes, I found cake sitting, which is like the more pure, wholesome version of what this person was asking me to do. Read more …

By: HuffPo

Foods You Can Eat to Boost Your Sex Drive

Suffering from a low sex drive? Try changing up your diet. What you eat can boost your libido, improve your stamina, and enhance your performance in the sheets. We have the real science to back it up. Read more …

By: Mind Body Green

Our parts come in all different shape, sizes and shades. It's important to look and experience what's yours because it's YOURS and amazing. These mainstream images will have you thinking your parts need to be tiny, little, and pink with small clit and small lips- when in actuality... we have hair, wide beautiful lips, colors that ranges from light browns to deep dark purples, clits that can be as big at your thumbs, UNIQUE, and just plain beautiful. #vagesteem #coochiegang 🎨: @lathams_illustrations

Why We Make Noises During Sex

The technical term for the noises we make during sex is copulatory vocalizations. Scientists have been studying these vocalizations for decades in humans and animals, from chimps to birds to squirrels. The body of research so far suggests that these noises occur for all kinds of reasons. 

The first and perhaps most obvious function of copulatory vocalizations is sexual communication. Noises convey to a partner what feels good and what doesn’t. They can convey a range of emotions from fear to pleasure to surprise to discomfort. Read more …

By: Dame Products

8 Rules You Should Be Following If You're In A Polyamorous Relationship

rules are more like guidelines for you and your partners to go over at the start of and throughout your relationship, and they ensure that you’ll have the necessary measures in place to set and stick to boundaries across all parties.

Why does that matter? In a polyamorous relationship, where three or more people maintain an emotionally (and typically physically) intimate relationship with each other, things can get messy fast. Read more …

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The Peak of Pegging? Why Anal Eroticism Is Everywhere in Porn and Pop Culture

What’s behind the growing pop culture pegging trend? 

In part, it’s due to the fact that pegging just so happens to be something that many men and women find to be a turn-on. So, on some level, what we’re seeing here is simply a reflection of our sexual fantasies. However, sexuality experts think the media’s fascination with pegging reveals something much deeper. Indeed, these depictions signify a seismic shift in societal views on sex and gender—a shift that has the potential to help all of us improve our sex lives. Read more …

By: Playboy

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On Breakups

I found myself thinking, recently, about an elevator ride after my last large breakup. Mere moments after our unceremonious uncoupling, my ex-partner and I rode to the ground in a machine. There was something interesting to me about being in such a small space with someone whom I still loved, but was no longer obligated to be in love with. Read more …

By: The Paris Review

Pegging for Politics

One night he came over while I was watching that episode of Broad City. “What’s pegging?”, he asked. Once he realized that pegging meant a woman penetrated a man's anus with a strap-on, his jaw dropped. “I’m not going to do that with you”, he announced. Read more …

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LISTEN TO THIS: True Sex & Wild Love

About this episode and why you should listen to it: Regena Thomashauer — the one and only “Mama Gena” — is a radiant teacher goddess and best-selling author, mother, media personality, and founder of the School of Womanly Arts. This episode will leave you feeling more connected and inspired to fearlessly harness your full pussy power, and teach us how we can utilize that power to manifest our most joyful life.

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Things Sex Therapists Want You to Know About Sex

Millennials may be dating less, but that doesn’t mean they are any less interested in sex. 

In reality, sex is an important and often integral part of relationships for people of all ages, sexual orientations, and genders. However, whether you consider yourself sexually experienced or are exploring sex for the first time, there are certain things that everyone should know when it comes to sex, according to sex therapists.  Read more …

By: The Independent

We’re Not Fucking Around: A Lack of Sleep WILL Destroy Your Sex Life

"It's pretty simple," said Laure Mintz, author of "A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex." "If you're exhausted and not getting enough sleep your sex drive is going to be extremely low." Read more …

By: CNN

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Sexual rejection is just a normal part of having sex. You WILL get rejected. You need to be ok with that fact. You're allowed to be disappointed. You're not allowed to try to convince, coerce, swindle, rage, belittle, or be disrespectful in any way. No is no. Absolutely nobody owes you sex. Everyone is allowed to make their own choices. "No" is just a preference, and trying to change people's minds is nuts. No is entirely as valid as yes. If you can't handle no, then do work on yourself before you continue having partnered sex. You're putting other people in danger and that's never ok. ❤️💃🏻❤️💃🏻 #sexpositive #sexology #queerart #radicalselflove #sexy #feminist #feminism #loveyourself #love #relationship #couple #respect #lgbtq #sexuality #sexeducation #womenempowerment #art #artist #design #doodle #drawing #sketch #graphicdesign #digitalart #procreate #sketchbook #illustration #cauliflowerhour #shrimpteeth

How Male Porn-Superfans View Women, According to Relevant Research

As an interdisciplinary group of “sexademics,” we’re interested in porn’s cultural role and impact. A common question we hear is whether this growth in porn consumption is good or bad for society.

Of course, the honest-but-unsatisfying answer is: It depends. But sometimes studying various aspects of porn consumption can change the way we think about it. Read More …

By: The Conversation

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Fat Women Have Great Sex Too

The idea that fat women should be lucky to get a date, let alone get laid, couldn't be further from the truth. Fat women deserve great sex. Fat women have great sex. But it took truly believing that for myself to finally see I could be one of those women. Read more …

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What to Do If Casual Sex Just Isn’t For You

You might be the type of person, or be in a phase in your life, where casual sex is not at all your bag. That's OK. Honoring whatever best serves you sexually can be a challenging thing to learn how to do. If that's the case for you, and and you happen to be sexually frustrated and single, the options for satiating your sex drive might seem limited. But trust, there are things you can do! Read more …

By: Bustle

We Know Dating Apps May Change Behavior … But How?

People often underestimate the effect that any tool or technology can have on the ways we think and act, said Pamela Rutledge, a psychologist who researchers precisely these effects. Part of our chronic denial may stem from the fact that, as the psychologist Bernard Luskin has noted, media and technology are the air we breathe now, so ubiquitous that any effects they may have appear invisible, as if they are already a part of us. We’d only notice, or acknowledge, these effects if suddenly we lost access to our phones, and experienced a difference in our sexual behaviors or decision-making. Read more …

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Have a headache? Masturbate.
Can’t sleep? Masturbate.
Hungover? Masturbate.
Feeling anxious? Masturbate.
Back pain? Masturbate.
Cramps? Masturbate.
Horny? Masturbate.
Need a distraction? Masturbate.

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What Does “Bi-Curious” Mean?

Dictionaries differ on when exactly the word “bi-curious” was first used. According to Merriam-Webster, it was 1984; The New Partridge Dictionary of Slang and Unconventional English says 1990; and Oxford Dictionaries’ Lexico simply says "1990s." But no matter the exact year that the term “bicurious” debuted, its use coincides with an increase in bisexual visibility in the United States: the first nationwide bisexual march was held in 1987, the first national bisexual organization formed and held its first conference in 1990, and the bisexual pride flag was designed in 1998.

The problem? As Bi Girls Club founder Gabrielle Alexa explains, the term “bi-curious” implies that someone needs to have a certain amount of sexual experience before they can identify as bisexual. Read more …

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How to Stay in Lust

here's no "date night" you can put into your iCal; no office flower delivery app to call upon. None of those things alone can win back that which a stale relationship has lost: its tenderness. Really, in all matters of the heart, tenderness is the lynchpin. Read more …

By: Esquire

18 Signs It’s Not Your Libido That’s Screwing Up Your Sex Life

Your sex drive may not be the problem

If having sex is the last thing on your mind, you may think your libido is to blame. Maybe you've tried to get in the mood but nothing seems to work. Or maybe, you've decided that physical intimacy isn't all that important to you anymore. Before you convince yourself that your days of naked bliss are done for, find out if there might be another more common culprit behind your dry spell. Read more …

By: Mom.com

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The Implicit Sexual Desire and How it Dictates Relationship Happiness

Research on sexual desire in romantic relationships, using explicit measures, showed that people tend to over or underreport their sexual desire due to different factors associated with relationship concerns or impression management. Read more …

By: Psychology Today

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Living Apart, Together: The New Relationship Style That Everyone is Obsessed With

Research shows that the typical LAT couple is over fifty. After living alone for a time — perhaps after being widowed or divorced — they realize they thrive when they have independence and personal space, and they don’t want to give that up when they begin a committed relationship. But experts say that LAT relationships are on the rise among millennials, thanks to women’s increased independence, the rapidly globalizing job market, and the normalization of other types of “non-traditional” relationship styles, such as polyamory. Read more …

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Why We Hate Male/Female Friendships So Much

In 1989, When Harry Met Sally posed a question that other pop-cultural entities have been trying to answer ever since: Can straight men and women really be close friends without their partnership turning into something else? (According to The Office, no. According to Lost in Translation, yes. According to Friends … well, sometimes no and sometimes yes.) Screenwriters have been preoccupied with this question for a long time, and according to a new study published in the Journal of Relationships Research, the question is also likely to be on the minds of people whose romantic partners have best friends of the opposite sex. Read more …

By: The Atlantic

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People Who Use More Emojis Have More Sex

What does your use of emojis say about your sex and dating life? According to a new study published in the journal PLoS ONE, a lot, actually. In fact, the frequent use of emojis with potential dates is linked to not only having sex more often but also to a more active and successful dating life. Read more …

By: Psychology Today

"You deserve a lover who takes away the lies and brings you hope, coffee, and poetry" Frida's coping & thriving through so many adversities is an inspiration to me. We all want good lovers & we all want strength. What would you like your lover to bring to you? #lover #love #poetry #coffee #frida #art #artist #inspiration

Real People Explain How Anti-Depressants Have Affected Their Sex Lives

The pills allow them to manage their mental health problems, but this positive change can come with negative side effects, such as a declined sex drive. Changing the dosage or swapping to a different type of medication can help (though there are no guarantees) but the interim can be very difficult. Read more …

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The 10 Biggest Sex Trends of 2019

These are the biggest trends we see in sex in 2019. You definitely want to know more. We promise. Read more …

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Men Who Send Unsolicited Dick Pics Are Gross Narcissists

A new study in the Journal of Sex Research tackled the topic from a scientific perspective. Study authors surveyed more than 1,000 men and compared the personalities of guys who admitting to sending unsolicited photos of their genitals to women with men who did not do this. 

The conclusion: Dick pic senders are more likely to be narcissistic and sexist. Surprised? Read more …

By: Health.com

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Everything You Should Know About Bringing Sex Toys on Vacation

From getting through TSA to how to keep your batteries charged, we’ve got you covered. We spoke with Scalisi and sexologist Megan Stubbs, Ed.D, about everything you need to consider when bringing a sex toy on vacation. Read more …

By: Le Wand

What it’s Like Going “Deep Single”

My high school bestie, Josh, and I drove down the Pacific Northwest coastline, a vacation we'd fantasized about for years. "I want to be in an exclusive relationship with myself," I told him as we sipped bourbon and watched the surf crash against the coast. We laughed, but I was serious. Read more …

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More Cardio Is Linked to Better Orgasms, Study Finds

A new study in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that people who did more intense cardio also had less sexual dysfunction, like erectile dysfunction or inability to feel aroused. Read more …

By: Insider

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The First Chlamydia Vaccine Has Passed Safety Tests & Could Be On Its Way To A Doctor's Office Near You

As the BBC reports, after passing initial safety tests, the vaccine will be the first of its kind to enter human trials. More tests will need to be undertaken in order to discover just how effective the vaccine is, and what the proposed dosage should be. Read more …

By: Bustle

Where Did My Sex Drive Go?

It can be really frustrating if you want more sex in your life but never feel in the mood. Before jumping into some ways that you can change your relationship with sexual desire, I want to clarify that how much you want sex is personal and there’s no right or wrong amount to want sex or to have it. Everyone is different and it’s ok to want sex a lot, sometimes, or never. The only time that it becomes a problem is if it’s bothering you…which it sounds like it is! Read more …

By: Tabü

Already made a post about this once, but it beats repeating. Consent is not just a box to check to avoid liability, like some paperwork drudgery. Consent should be a GOAL. Consent is about making sure your partner is as EXCITED to get it on with you as you are with them. Because to be honest, would you really want it any other way? Couple of notes: * Consent is an ongoing negotiation. Just because somebody consented to one thing (kissing, holding hands, fucking) does not mean they want another thing (a blowjob, sex, pregnancy). * Even more obscure and assumed, consent to an activity once does not mean consent to that activity every time. EVEN IF THEY LIKED IT THAT ONCE! * What activities you and your partner consent to should always be available to revision. This allows you to keep checking in with each other, learn and grow together, and keep that spark ALIVE as tastes change. Consent is a GOAL! Let's CELEBRATE it!

Is The Orgasm Gap Real? What You Need to Know

Orgasms have been shown to reduce stress and anxiety levels, boost immunity, and increase self-esteem — all while triggering a rush of feel good hormones throughout the body. And yet, not everyone is getting them equally. Read more …

By: O.School

Let's talk about sex - PERIOD SEX.♥️ * There seems to be a huge stigma surrounding this, as I've encountered many a sexual experience wherein my bleeding was seemingly problematic to the other person. * I'm not saying that everyone needs to get over it, but I'm kinda low-key saying everyone needs to get over it. * Vaginas bleed sometimes. And we still be horny bitches. Sooo...get bloody! * Also read my piece on WhatTheSlut? where I divulge more period sex commentary. Link in bio! * * * Image by: @piamvisuals #period #periodsex #menstruation #bloodygoodperiod #menstrualcycle #mooncycle #moontime #moonblood #womantime #womb #wombhealing #vagina #vaginaart #pussyart #glitter

My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me So I Bought Myself a Diamond Ring

I’ve often looked at other women’s hands and the glittering rocks delicately perched on their left ring finger—a status symbol, a constant reminder to them and to the world that they are loved. And isn’t that what a ring is? A symbol of commitment, mutual desire, and a decision to wake up next to one another for the rest of their lives. This is the love I’ve longed for. That I’ve waited to be deemed worthy of. Read more …

By: Glamour

COMMUNICATION! * Often we can fall into the trap of believing that a sexual partner is only 'good in bed' if they intuitively understand our bodies and desires. Of course it's a marvelous thing when everything does just slot into place, but sometimes chemistry can only take you so far. More often than not this Hollywood depiction of sex is waaaay off the mark. The key to good sex and being a good partner is communication - understanding both the verbal and non-verbal cues that your partner's body gives you, and in turn being able to communicate your own needs. You wouldn't expect a barista to correctly guess your coffee order just by looking at you, or your doctor to diagnose an illness without hearing the symptoms, so why should you expect your partner to intuitively understand what your body desires sexually? Like any other skill, being a good communicator and ultimately, being 'good in bed', takes practice. Pre-sex, openly discuss your desires, find mutual interests and set boundaries. During sex, vocalise your specific needs and what you do and don't like. Be kind and encouraging towards your partner while you nudge them in the right direction. If the person you're with can't find your clit, show them! If they are thrusting too fast or too slow, ask them to change the pace! After sex, reinforce which parts you enjoyed. Avoid a negative tone where possible and steer clear from telling someone they were 'bad' at something. And ultimately, if the person you're with is unwilling to listen to your boundaries or if they make you feel silly for expressing your desires, then they probably aren't deserving of your interest, or your body! Go forth and talk dirty! Super cool cat photography/ art by the brilliant @michel_e_b

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The Guide to Safely Sharing Sex Toys

No doubt, sex toys are a great way to bring a lot of pleasure and fun into your sex life. But because these reliable babes are going near and in your (and maybe your partners’) nether regions, cleaning them is a must. Here, experts explain why keeping your sex toys clean is so important for sexual health and hygiene—plus their top tips for proper sex toy care. Read more …

By: Dame Products

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Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Curved Penises

According to the Mayo Clinic, some people “have a penis that curves to the side, upward or downward when erect. This is common, and a bent penis in most men isn't a problem.” A bent penis occurs when, during an erection, the spongelike spaces inside the penis expand unevenly. “Most often, this is due to normal differences in penis anatomy, but sometimes scar tissue or another problem causes a bent penis and painful erections,” according to the Mayo Clinic. Read more …

By: Refinery29

What to Know About BDSM Websites

Because we are talking about BDSM, we have to begin with the magic word: safety. But, in the case of kink dating sites, in might be more accurate to use the term security.

Yes, you should keep the trinity of BDSM in your mind at all times - physical and emotional safety, playing with you and your playmates’ heads screwed on straight, and with clear and unequivocal consent from everyone involved - but when you step into cyberspace, you also need to be extremely cautious about any site you visit. Especially if it’s kink-related. Read more …

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Everything You Need to Know About At-Home STI Tests

STDs remain a socially taboo subject, but getting tested regularly is more important than ever; the STD rates in the U.S. have been rising rapidly, with an estimated 20 million new cases each year, according to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, and antibiotic-resistant strains of gonorrhea and chlamydia are becoming a real risk.

Despite the increased importance, one in four sexually active adults has never been tested for an STD, according to a survey conducted by the birth control app Nurx. Why? Read more …

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